By Noel Cadelina
Let me ask you, what’s your life story?
When I meet people for the first time, I would love to make new friends by asking them to share their stories — to tell me who they are and where they’re from, where they’ve been and where they’re going. I want to understand what matters to them. And I have a very specific reason why I’m asking you about your own story right now.
I wish I could sit with you and hear what you think about your story so far. What kind of story is it? We all have a bit of humour in our stories, as well as some drama. We all have our ups and downs, wins and losses. There’s a bit of comedy, tragedy, and history in all of us. But overall, each of our lives tells a larger story. What do you want yours to say? I believe that no matter what “plot” each of our stories may follow, deep down we all want one thing: We want our lives to matter.
We want our stories to be of significance. Nobody wants to feel like the world wouldn’t miss us if we’ve never lived. Are you with me?
You ever see that old school western movie with Clint Eastwood? The good, the bad and the ugly.
Now I won’t be talking about that classic “ wild western” today.But I will be sharing how when life hits you with all 3 at the same time…
You’ll be able to master their effects on your life.This is one of the most intense, life altering mindset shifts you can make to keep you on track.
What’s the first thing that comes to mind when you hear that word “responsibility”?
Probably things like…Being responsible when it comes to paying your bills…
Always completing your tasks on time at your work…Or showing up for events that your family is counting on you to attend.
Which is all true. But I wanted to share a whole other level of responsibility when it comes to how you can maintain full control, no matter what happens. Once you master this perspective…
You truly become an architect of your life.
So let’s get back to the good, the bad and the ugly.
On any given day, you could be hit with circumstances or events that fit into all three of those categories.And normally, it’s very easy to simply lump an event into either “good or bad” and that’s it… done.
But that’s how someone who hasn’t mastered the art of being “in the driver’s seat” looks at things.
If it’s good… they feel like a Victor. If it’s bad… they feel like a Victim.
When in fact, any event in your life is always both.
Whoa…Let’s say you lose your job. Someone might say, “Oh that’s horrible… how will you pay the bills?!” Someone else says, “Oh wow… now you can focus on launching a new business of your very own!” You know what… they both can be right.
For once you fully understand that you can pull out the benefits from both sides of the good and bad equation…You’re in the driver’s seat my friend. You are in complete control.
And where you drive your vision next all depends on how you choose to focus on those “supposedly” good and bad events.Put your attention on everything bad about it… welcome to the victim passenger seat… where you have zero control.Put your attention on everything great about that same event…
You’re cruising full speed ahead heading for your next victory lap! So the next time something happens to you, stop and remind yourself of this key concept.
Good, bad or ugly…You can turn it all into your greatest triumph.
Also, another classic movie It’s a Wonderful Life? It’s the story of George Bailey, a man who dreams of traveling the world and building things, but who instead stays home in Bedford Falls, because he repeatedly chooses to do what he believes to be right for others. A point occurs in the movie where George experiences a moment of crisis, and he comes to believe that everyone around him would be better off if he had never been born.
What he’s really saying is that his life doesn’t matter!.
The great twist in the story occurs when, with the help of an angel, George gets a chance to see what his town and others’ lives would look like if he had never existed. Without him, it’s a dark and negative place. George comes to recognize the positive impact he had made because, time after time, he took action to do what he knew was right and helped other people.
As Clarence the angel tells him, “Each man’s life touches so many other lives.” George had touched many lives in small ways and made a difference.Have you looked at your life from that angle?
Have you thought about what you want your life story to be?
Do you believe you can live a life of significance, that you can do things that really matter? Can you make your story great? With all my heart, I believe the answer to these questions is yes. You have it within your power to make your life a great story, one of significance. Every person can.
Regardless of nationality, opportunity, ethnicity, or capacity, each of us can live lives of significance. We can do things that matter and that can make the world a better place.
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. (Philippians 4:13)
I hope you believe that, unless you choose otherwise!
(Thanks to Drago Adam of Monday Morning Motivator and Keala Kanae of Fullstaq Marketer)
God bless you all!
(❚ Noel Cadelina, Minister of Faith in Jesus City Church Winnipeg, 204-228-2146)